What’s the Deal?

Happy Friday! ??‍♀️??‍♀️??‍♀️??
I hope all is well!

Okay so, before I dive into today’s post, A few housekeeping items!

First of all, I did put up a post last week!! I got queried about slacking on my resolution for the blog but that is not so! I put out a post, I just didn’t have the time to send out the email. However, if you subscribed to the blog (please do and make your friends and family), you would have received the notification! Click here in case you missed!

Second of all, ermmm that’s it. I have no other announcements teehee.

Now back to our regularly scheduled program! I’ve always wanted to say that ???

Okay so, SOMEONE asked me what my stance was on women keeping their maiden names after marriage.

I said I’m traditional and gave “the Woman and Man leaving their families to become one” spiel. “I intend to take my husband’s name and drop mine”. I also expressed that I do have friends who are married and have kept their maiden names for various reasons so I don’t judge either way. Plus, some women keep both names and hyphenate them so I guess that works too. “The possibilities are endless. To each her own I guess” I said.

When I asked what his stance on the subject is, let’s just say his response boggled my mind.

He said that he too is traditional. So he would definitely want his wife to take his name. “I won’t have it any other way,” he said. “HOWEVER” he added (and this is the kicker), “I have sisters and cousins so if they decide to keep their maiden name, I would understand.”

Me: Why would you be so understanding of your family members but not of your intended?
Him: Because some last names hold more weight than others and could potentially open more doors for them. I would understand if that is the case
Me: But you won’t accept that from your woman even if that is the case here
Him: No
Me: So you wouldn’t advise a sister or cousin to drop their name either, considering your stance on this?
Him: Listen, there’s reality and there are sentiments. If my sister or cousin has a more prominent last name, I don’t see why-

Let’s just say, I went Rose Parks, Chimananda, Oprah, Michelle Obama AND Oby Ezekwesili on him.

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Why are we like this? ? Why are we so strict with others, yet more understanding towards our own? ?

What do you guys think?!!

Thank you so much for reading and have the best weekend ahead!

Love always,
The Wawa New Yorker