Happy April! Happy Easter and Happy O’Day my beautiful people! I hope April has been good to you.
Okay so a few weeks ago, I got home early from work with nothing to do, so I decided to watch Keeping Up with the Kardashians. I don’t care much for reality TV but it was the episode about Kim’s robbery so I was curious. As she narrated the chain of events to her sisters, I got a tad teary-eyed because it dawned on me that this was a really traumatic experience that happened to a real human being. Millionaire reality-superstar or not, at that moment, Kim was a regular girl who wasn’t sure if she’d ever see her family again. I think what really struck me was the reaction of the public to the matter. Everyone from public figures to even my coworkers chastised the poor girl. She was condemned for putting her entire life out there for people to see. People said things like “why wouldn’t that happen to her?” “She deserved it” etc.
Before you roll your eyes, and think to yourself “this chick’s been away for weeks, only for her first post to be about the Kardashians”, you know I never write to just write, let me explain.
Recently I’ve been queried to put myself “out there” more to promote my blog. Trust me, I get it. My blog may have sponsors and a lot more readers by now if I just promoted it. And with social media, seriously, I have no excuse. All I’d have to do is post photos of my life, tell people what I write about, and boom! Baby girl go hammer!
While that sounds ideal – Lord knows I’m ready to be pampered and get paid to just smile at a camera in designer clothing – my question to everyone who has made this suggestion remains the same “and then what?”
Have you ever scrolled down to read the comments people leave under the post of Insta-celebrities? Or heard what people say about them? Forget celebrities, let’s bring it back to the average Jane. Yesterday alone, I got into a heated conversation with someone who had the nerve to ask my friend how she made money to support her lifestyle! I went on a trip and someone googled the hotel and came back to say “I know you have money Oby, see how you’re living” THE EFF?!
Regardless of their intentions, people decide to share their lives with people (friends and strangers) and with time, gain a certain level of popularity. But at what cost? Somethings these things lead to divorce, disrespect, unfair judgement – YOU NAME IT. Someone once told me, that “when you share any part of your life with someone, whatever the outcome, good or bad, is on top your head.” Is the tradeoff worth it though?
*sigh* I guess my question today is simple: Is short term fame worth your lifelong happiness? Let me know what you think.
As always, thank you for reading.
Love always,
The Wawa New Yorker
P.S. – I know I have been MIA and I am sorry. For weeks I was operating on E. Life was kicking my butt every chance it got and I was tired. Completely exasperated. By the grace of God, I will do better to be more consistent.
I feel fame in general is stemmed from pride, and is not, in any way, able to give one fulfillment. The urge, after getting attn or applauded, leads one to do more and more of what is usually displeasing to God, just so the applause and attn can continue. (Silent) Work towards things that draw people to their life purpose, and let the eventual success make the noise – this is what i believe is best. Not tooting. Tooting and outward shows yield to pride. Thanks for writing, great to have
My dear your response is spot on! Trust me, in the past two years, I too have had moments of wondering what people want to see as opposed to what I want to put out there. After a post does really well (by that I mean, I gets a number of responses), I find myself asking people what they want to read more off. Thank God I have my family ri keep me on track by being quick to remind me of why I started sharing what I write to being with.
Thank you for reading and leaving a comment love!
People will judge everything and anything…. one just has to live life the way they know how
You’re so right! Thank you so much for reading and leaving a comment!